Why raising a toddler feels exactly like domesticating a wild mammal

Priya
2026-03-31T11:35:22+02:00

It was three in the morning and my son was slick with sweat, drool, and the unmistakable rage of a creature who had just discovered teeth. He was thrashing against my chest, refusing the bottle I was offering. I was doing what any rational, sleep-deprived mother does in the dark. I was scrolling Instagram.

The algorithm, sensing my fragile state, served me a video of a glossy, screaming, wide-mouthed potato. It was a baby hippo. She was biting her handler, throwing her head back in dramatic protest of a bath, and demanding to sleep exclusively on top of another living being. I stared at the screen, then down at the squirming mass of anger in my arms. The realization was immediate and deeply humbling. I wasn't raising a human boy. I was raising a pygmy hippo.

Listen, my doctor warned me that the transition from infant to toddler is essentially a domestication process. I just assumed she meant it metaphorically. But watching the internet collectively lose its mind over every famous baby hippo that goes viral has been a strange sort of validation. We're all just out here trying to keep tiny, irrational, water-loving mammals alive.

I gave birth to a spicy potato

The timeline of newborn survival is a blur of bodily fluids and skin conditions. When you first bring a baby home, they don't look like the pristine angels in the diaper commercials. They look like they've been submerged in a swamp and then left in the sun. Their skin peels off in sheets.

I remember reading that baby hippos are born with extremely sensitive skin that cracks if it dries out. Their bodies adapt by secreting this red mucus situation called blood sweat. It is an antibacterial ointment and sunscreen. Human babies, unfortunately, don't come with built-in biological aquaphor. My understanding of infant dermatology is that their skin is roughly twenty to thirty percent thinner than ours, which means they lose moisture faster than you can pump lotion out of the bottle.

When my son was born, his skin was a disaster of dry patches and mysterious rashes. Every synthetic fabric seemed to make him angrier. I ended up putting him exclusively in this organic cotton baby bodysuit we got from Kianao. It was the only thing that didn't chafe his thighs or trap the sweat against his neck. The cotton is allegedly grown without all the chemical nonsense, which I guess matters when your child's skin barrier is essentially paper-mache. I bought it in four colors and just rotated them until he finally grew an outer layer of actual skin.

I read somewhere that when Fiona, the baby hippo at the Cincinnati Zoo, was born prematurely, she was too weak to stay in the water. Her care team had to rub diluted baby lotion all over her body every single hour just to mimic her natural moisture barrier. I thought about those zookeepers often during our third month, applying cream to my son's eczema at two in the morning. We were all just doing triage.

The great oral strike

Then came the teeth. I need to talk about the teething phase for a minute, because no one adequately prepares you for the sheer level of collateral damage a single incisor can cause.

In pediatric nursing, we see a lot of babies come into the ER for dehydration. Usually it's a stomach bug. But sometimes, it's just teething. A baby whose mouth hurts will flat-out refuse to eat. They will look at a bottle like it's highly offensive and bat it away. It's a very specific kind of maternal torture to watch your child refuse liquids while their soft spot slowly sinks in. You try a syringe, you try a cup, you try begging.

When my son's first top tooth was erupting, he went on a complete nursing and bottle strike for two days. I was checking his diapers every hour, mentally calculating his urine output like I was back on the hospital floor. I was spiraling, yaar. It turns out, this is also a cross-species issue. That same premature hippo, Fiona, went through a teething phase so brutal she stopped nursing entirely. The zoo had to bring in a vascular access team from the local children's hospital to place a midline IV just to keep her hydrated.

I didn't have an ultrasound machine and an IV kit in my living room, so I just bought every teething contraption on the internet out of sheer panic. Most of them were useless. The panda teether was the only one that actually stayed in rotation. It has a flat shape, which meant he could shove it all the way to the back of his sore gums without triggering his gag reflex. I'd throw it in the fridge for ten minutes and hand it over. The cold silicone seemed to numb the area enough that he would finally accept a bottle an hour later.

I also tried a bubble tea teether because it looked cute on the website. Honestly, it was just okay. The little boba pearl bumps were probably meant to be soothing, but they made it awkward for him to hold. He mostly just chewed on the straw part for a second before throwing it at the cat. Stick to the flat ones.

If you're currently in the thick of the oral strike phase, you can browse Kianao's collection of teethers to find something flat and chillable. Just keep tracking the wet diapers.

Sinking like adorable rocks

Around the time he started walking, bath time became a battleground. This is when the true hippo behavior emerged. We would have a lovely, splashy time in the tub. Then I'd pull the plug, and a switch would flip. He would drop his weight, refuse to stand, and scream as the water drained around him. He became a lead weight of pure stubbornness.

There was a video circulating recently of Mars, a pygmy hippo at a wildlife park in Kansas. He refused to get out of his pool. The zookeepers tried games, they tried herding him, nothing worked. The standoff only ended when his mother waded in and delivered a look so intense it transcended the animal kingdom. The universal mom stare. I felt a deep, spiritual connection to that massive animal. I give that exact stare to my toddler every Tuesday when he tries to drink the bathwater.

Here's a terrifying fact about bath time. Neither human babies nor baby hippos can actually swim. People assume hippos are these graceful aquatic creatures. They're not. They're just incredibly dense. They sink to the bottom, hold their breath, and walk along the floor. When my son was seven months old, he slipped from my grip in the tub for half a second. He didn't flail. He didn't paddle. He just sank under the water like a stone, staring up at me with wide, unblinking eyes until I yanked him out.

It fundamentally changed how I viewed water safety. They have zero self-preservation instincts. To make the bath slightly more bearable and keep him occupied while sitting securely, I threw the gentle baby building block set in the water. They're soft rubber and they actually float, which is more than I can say for my child. He likes to squish them and chew on the corners, and it usually distracts him long enough for me to wash the shampoo out of his hair before the inevitable tantrum.

The final stage of domestication

We're slowly moving out of the wild animal phase and into something resembling human childhood. The teething strikes are mostly behind us. He allows me to put lotion on him without thrashing. We even made it through a bath yesterday with minimal screaming.

Every time I see a new baby hippo name trending on my feed, whether it's baby hippo moo deng causing chaos in Thailand or some local zoo announcing a birth, I just nod in solidarity with the mother. It's a short, intense period of survival. Hippos only carry their young for eight months, which frankly sounds like a better deal than the forty weeks we endure. But once they're out, the rules of engagement are surprisingly similar. Keep them hydrated, protect their weird skin, and never negotiate with them when they're near water.

Listen, instead of fighting the absolute chaos of toddlerhood with logic and rigid schedules, just wrap them in a towel, accept the screaming, and find a cold piece of silicone to shove in their mouth. It gets easier eventually. Probably.

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Unsolicited answers to questions you might have

Is it normal for my baby to refuse bottles when teething?

Yeah, and it's terrible. The gums get so inflamed that the suction required to drink from a bottle or nurse causes actual pain. My trick was to give him something freezing cold to chew on for ten minutes to numb the mouth, then immediately offer the bottle. If they go more than eight hours without a wet diaper though, call your doctor. Don't mess around with dehydration.

Why does my newborn's skin look so bad?

Because they just spent the better part of a year floating in amniotic fluid and now they're exposed to dry air and synthetic fabrics. It's going to peel. It's going to look like a rash. Keep them in organic cotton, use a barrier cream that doesn't have thirty unpronounceable chemicals in it, and wait it out. It usually sorts itself out by month three.

Can I just let my baby cry when they don't want to leave the bath?

You can try, but you're negotiating with a terrorist. I find the swift extraction method works best. Drain the tub while they're distracted by a floating toy, scoop them up in a massive towel, and ignore the thrashing. The mom stare only works once they're old enough to understand fear, which doesn't happen until at least age two.

What's the point of putting toys in the fridge instead of the freezer?

If you freeze a solid silicone teether, it becomes a literal ice block. When a baby with sore, sensitive gums bites down on a rock-hard piece of ice, it causes more pain and sometimes damages the tissue. The fridge gets it just cold enough to constrict the blood vessels and reduce swelling without turning the toy into a weapon. Also, my son once dropped a frozen teether on my bare foot and I saw stars, so there's that.

Are those organic clothes honestly worth the money?

If your kid has perfect, resilient skin, maybe not. But if you've a baby prone to eczema or heat rash, yes. Regular cotton is often treated with stuff that takes dozens of washes to fully strip out. When you're waking up at 4 AM because your baby is scratching their own legs bloody, you'll pay any amount of money for a fabric that just leaves them alone.